An Unquenchable Thirst, Faith, Mary Johnson, Memoir, Mother Teresa, Roman Catholics, Strong Women

Review: An Unquenchable Thirst


One of my all time pleasures is reading. Lots of books, usually two or three at the same time. I’ve been called a bookworm, bookhound, and bibliophile. 

I would call myself a bookinista-you know like fashionista. But I thought of a Spanglish term, a hybrid of “book,” and “conquista,” hence booquista, or book conqueror. 

I read to momentarily escape from my world, learn about other cultures, societies, or to see things from another point of view. 

Last month I had the pleasure of hearing Mary Johnson read selections from her book AN UNQUENCHABLE THIRST: A Memoir, at Vroman’s Bookstore in Pasadena. 

I wanted to read this book because I was born and raised a Catholic during the 60’s/70’s. I attended Catholic elementary and high school. When I was around nine years old, I contemplated becoming a nun. That went out the door when I turned twelve.

I was also curious about Mother Teresa and her missionary nuns. The curiosity about cloistered life was a big draw. 

When I was a kid I thought all nuns were like my grammar school principal, Sister John Bosco, who carried a yardstick with her at all times and was OCD about clean chalkboards. 

I never thought about how nuns dealt with their humanness or feelings of sexuality, until Sister Rose Marie ran away with Brother Peter, the Dean of Boys at my high school.


But back to the book. At seventeen, Mary felt a calling when she saw a photo of Mother Teresa on the cover of Time magazine-18 months later (Summer of 1977) she began training as a Missionary of Charity, a nun in Mother Teresa’s order. 

The story has been described as a spiritual memoir and a feminist coming of age memoir.

Mary recounts her experiences as a teenager, young adult, and mature woman facing the challenges of living an austere life of poverty, chastity, and service. It takes a strong woman to serve under those conditions, ones she freely took, but persevered. After 20 years of service she leaves the Catholic Church to find her own path. It takes a strong woman to leave when your convictions guide you to do so. 

This is not “The Singing Nun,” or just a diary of a woman in a religious community. Her story goes deeper, into the culture of this particular order and her responses to her experiences. This is about her own spiritual development, faltering, doubt, hope and faith. 

You may have heard that the book has been calledanti-Catholic,’ negative, shocking.  

I didn’t see it as anti-Catholic. It was Mary Johnson’s experiences with pre-Vatican II dogma that she questioned. Heck (you know I wanted to say He**, but I still remember the yardstick). I questioned that a lot too, doesn’t make me anti-Catholic. 

Yes there are some experiences that surprised me (falling in love, stalked by a sexual predator subordinate, self-flagellation). But these are precisely the things that show the woman behind the blue and white sari. She speaks of these issues with candor and empathy, not as melodrama. 

The memoir reads as a novel, it’s intimate, descriptive, and intriguing. The insights into the political ‘party’ of Rome, the interactions with the other nuns and the townspeople they served, and the insider knowledge of Mother Teresa herself was very engaging. 

If you love reading well written insightful memoirs that give you a peek into other societies you will find this book enthralling. 

Sincerely,









Chigonas, Courage, Kind Hearted Woman documentary, PBS Frontline, RAINN fundraiser, Robin Charboneau, Sexual Assault Awareness Month, Sexual Violence, Strength, Strong Women

A Strong "Kind Hearted" Woman

Last night I watched a powerful documentary titled “Kindhearted Woman.” The story of Robin Charboneau, the 32 year old single mother on the Spirit Lake Reservation. Her story touched me in so many ways, and on several levels: as a woman, survivor, mother…I could go on, but an excerpt from her introduction gives you a sense of this remarkable woman. 

Throughout my entire life I have struggled with the aftershock of trauma from my childhood experiences of sexual abuse. I had no idea who “Robin” was, certainly no idea who “Kind Hearted Woman” (my Native American name) was. I struggled with the question of, why? Why was I abused over and over and over again? 

I struggled until, one night after I had prayed and asked, why? I had a dream (vision) of someone dying in the family and everyone in the house knew what had happened to the person, but would not tell. They would not say anything when the police came and questioned everyone. Then, right before they left, I finally found the strength to open my mouth and say “I KNOW WHAT HAPPENED.” 

When I woke up, I knew then and there that I needed to make the commitment to do the film. I needed to bear witness to my own life so that others would learn from my experience and know that there is a way out of the darkness.

Several studies have found that Native American women suffer sexual abuse, 
domestic violence and physical assault at rates far exceeding women of other ethnicities and locations. Kind Hearted Woman is the story of how the challenges of these abuses show up in life and how one woman dug in and dealt with these issues. (You can watch the two episodes on the PBS website).

When I first found out about the film, I wondered about the effects the documentary will have on Robins children and her life. Was it too much honesty, would it breed fear or shame, how would they deal with the abuse all out in the open? 

After I viewed the second episode I no longer wondered about that issue. I only thought about how brave Robin is and how open she became with her son and daughter. She was honest and although talking to them about boundaries, abuse, and her divorce seemed overwhelming at times, there she was struggling to be real, to trust others, and at the same time nurturing to her children. 

Honesty, therapy, and support helped Robin help her children, herself and others. I’m glad she found some resources to assist her and more happy that she found the strength to keep on keeping on during the struggles with her mental health, sobriety, and recovery. Her story brought healing. It ain’t easy.
 

During “Sexual Assault Awareness Month” you can do a lot for others. One small but huge action is a donation to RAINN non-profit (Rape, Abuse,Incest National Network). 

Donations are tax deductible, and RAINN will send you a receipt and place your donation on the RAINN Makers page.

My pledge is to give away one of these cool bracelets (either Hope, Courage, or Strenght) to someone who donates to this cause before April 19, 2013. Random selection of whom will receive one of these bracelets will be made on April 20, 2013 and notification soon after.

Your donation will help others who are struggling with their abuse. Be the change you wish to see.