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Sexual Assault by Teens and Cyberbullying

For eight months, the family of Audrie Potts struggled to figure out what happened to their soccer loving, artistic, horse crazy daughter, whose smile and shining eyes were inconsistent with their 15 year old daughter who committed suicide.

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And then on Thursday, seven months after the tragedy, a Northern California sheriff’s office arrested three 16-year-old boys on charges of sexual battery. 
Audrie had been “… savagely assaulted by her fellow high school students while she lay on a bed completely unconscious.” 
Just like the Steubenville case and the one at Notre Dame, cell phone photos of the attack went viral. 

Disgusting. Alarming. But these incidents keep happening. 

Now there is another young woman, media referred to the story as the Canadian Steubenville, who was sexually assaulted at age 15 and the four teenage boys were not prosecuted.

“Leah Parsons said she took her 17-year-old daughter, Rehtaeh, off life-support Sunday after she hanged herself last week…”*

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Photos of Rehtaeh also went viral and instead of the four boys being bullied or harassed, the viewers of such evil turned on Rehtaeh, bullying, shunning and blaming the victim. 

About 44% of rape victims are under the age of 18 and 93% of the rape victims age 18 and under knew the rapist. It is common for rape victims to suffer from the depression-untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide. About 33% of rape victims have suicidal thought.

No doubt there are thousands of more cases in many communities, never reported or publicized. If this happened to you at 12, 15, 17, 19, any age, would you get help? Would you know where to turn?  

Those who are sexually assaulted,need to know there is someone to call. Find out if the schools, coffee shops, movie theaters, or places of worship in your community have the phone numbers and websites of local, state, or national rape or suicide hotlines posted in conspicuous areas.

This is how we can help. We can help throw out a life line to those who need someone to talk to in confidence, someone trained to help in crisis intervention. 


I was tired of feeling hopeless and powerless about this area so I joined RAINN in a fundraiser. Help fund the hotline and educate people about sexual violence and recovery. 

There are only 5 days left to achieve my goal. During April (Sexual Assault Awareness Month) all donations will be matched. They are on RAINN’s secure website (it is cited as one of the 10 best charities by Marie Claire and Worth magazine). You will receive a tax deductible receipt. 

On April 20, via a random drawing, an RAINN bracelet will be given to someone who donates to my fundraiser.  


Be the change you want to see. 

The Hotline phone # is 877-995-5247. The online helpline. Thank you for listening.

*Washington Post 

An Unquenchable Thirst, Faith, Mary Johnson, Memoir, Mother Teresa, Roman Catholics, Strong Women

Review: An Unquenchable Thirst


One of my all time pleasures is reading. Lots of books, usually two or three at the same time. I’ve been called a bookworm, bookhound, and bibliophile. 

I would call myself a bookinista-you know like fashionista. But I thought of a Spanglish term, a hybrid of “book,” and “conquista,” hence booquista, or book conqueror. 

I read to momentarily escape from my world, learn about other cultures, societies, or to see things from another point of view. 

Last month I had the pleasure of hearing Mary Johnson read selections from her book AN UNQUENCHABLE THIRST: A Memoir, at Vroman’s Bookstore in Pasadena. 

I wanted to read this book because I was born and raised a Catholic during the 60’s/70’s. I attended Catholic elementary and high school. When I was around nine years old, I contemplated becoming a nun. That went out the door when I turned twelve.

I was also curious about Mother Teresa and her missionary nuns. The curiosity about cloistered life was a big draw. 

When I was a kid I thought all nuns were like my grammar school principal, Sister John Bosco, who carried a yardstick with her at all times and was OCD about clean chalkboards. 

I never thought about how nuns dealt with their humanness or feelings of sexuality, until Sister Rose Marie ran away with Brother Peter, the Dean of Boys at my high school.


But back to the book. At seventeen, Mary felt a calling when she saw a photo of Mother Teresa on the cover of Time magazine-18 months later (Summer of 1977) she began training as a Missionary of Charity, a nun in Mother Teresa’s order. 

The story has been described as a spiritual memoir and a feminist coming of age memoir.

Mary recounts her experiences as a teenager, young adult, and mature woman facing the challenges of living an austere life of poverty, chastity, and service. It takes a strong woman to serve under those conditions, ones she freely took, but persevered. After 20 years of service she leaves the Catholic Church to find her own path. It takes a strong woman to leave when your convictions guide you to do so. 

This is not “The Singing Nun,” or just a diary of a woman in a religious community. Her story goes deeper, into the culture of this particular order and her responses to her experiences. This is about her own spiritual development, faltering, doubt, hope and faith. 

You may have heard that the book has been calledanti-Catholic,’ negative, shocking.  

I didn’t see it as anti-Catholic. It was Mary Johnson’s experiences with pre-Vatican II dogma that she questioned. Heck (you know I wanted to say He**, but I still remember the yardstick). I questioned that a lot too, doesn’t make me anti-Catholic. 

Yes there are some experiences that surprised me (falling in love, stalked by a sexual predator subordinate, self-flagellation). But these are precisely the things that show the woman behind the blue and white sari. She speaks of these issues with candor and empathy, not as melodrama. 

The memoir reads as a novel, it’s intimate, descriptive, and intriguing. The insights into the political ‘party’ of Rome, the interactions with the other nuns and the townspeople they served, and the insider knowledge of Mother Teresa herself was very engaging. 

If you love reading well written insightful memoirs that give you a peek into other societies you will find this book enthralling. 

Sincerely,