Sunday Share: No to Holiday Stress

The middle of December approaches like a surprise snowstorm.

The time between November thru January may accentuate what is missing from the season, like losing a loved one, dwindling finances, or poor health.

On top of that, the holiday expectations to be ‘jolly and light’ or have the perfect decorations or bake elaborate cookies and meals are added stress.

This is my two cents, but when I’m feeling stressed, I stop whatever I’m doing and sit with my feelings. I give them room. Not all day, but an allotted time. Sometimes it’s five minutes, others it’s twenty minutes.

Holding space for your feelings validates their importance. And it gives you time to balance it with a way to fill the empty. A method that doesn’t sink you any lower.

A few actions I’ve thought about countering stress are assembled in this poem, my attempt at a Christmas tree.

Christmas List

Give a hug
Forgive yourself
Be kind, be gentle
Give a soft answer
Seek to understand
Encourage someone
Express your gratitude
Seek out a forgotten friend
Have a cup of hot chocolate
Eat a Christmas cookie or two
Take pleasure in nature's beauty

I received a few Advanced Reader Copies (ARCs) of my novel, The Garden of Second Chances. Subscribers to my newsletter had a chance at a drawing. A random generator chose the name.

Subscriber Danielle B. won a copy of the novel. Thank you to the several subscribers who entered. I’ll let you know when I have a giveaway on Goodreads.

My monthly newsletter will go out on December 17th instead of December 24th. Also, the last Sunday is Christmas, so I’m forgoing the Sunday Share post until January.

Latino culture

A to Z Challenge Day 4: D is for Dale

Today’s is day four of the A to Z Blogging Challenge. The letter is D, and the word today is Dale.

Not Day-el, as in Roy Rogers and Dale Evans.

Dale is pronounced Dah-ley in Spanish. It’s from the verb ‘dar,’ which means ‘to give.’

Since we rarely spoke in full Spanish sentences (for reasons I pointed out in day 1) we did use a lot of Spanish slang and phrases.

The phrase I often heard from my aunts and uncles was “Dale gas.” Literally, it means “Give it gas,” but can be used in a sentence which means,”Step on it!”

¡Dale gas, hombre, que no llegamos! Can’t you drive faster? Come on, step on it or we’ll be late!


Dale gas

The word ‘dale’ can mean “say,” as in Dale un saludo a tu madre. Say hello to your mother.

Most often Dale is used as an encouragement. You can hear the word shouted by bilingual parents at a child’s soccer, baseball, or other sports game:

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Go ahead!

Do it!

Go for it!

Give it to them!

We use a lot of exclamation points when we talk.

Seems easy enough, but never confuse “Dale” as a single word when telling a friend to say hello to their mother:

Dale a tu madre, because that my English speaking friends, is a very profane statement!