Valentine's Day

Doing Valentine’s Day Your Way

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Theories abound about the origin of V-Day, but the most popular legend is about a Catholic priest who lived in the 3rd century. The story goes that Father Valentine was imprisoned and executed for performing marriages for Christian couples secretly during a time when the Roman Empire banned marriage.

Father Valentine sent a letter to the jailor’s daughter, who had visited him in prison, signed “From your Valentine,” This act of love inspired the modern celebration of Valentine’s Day as a day of love and romance.  

So, a priest sent a love letter to his jailer’s daughter. That’s not creepy, is it?

If you are single and without a love connection on Valentine’s Day, it’s important to remember that your relationship status does not define your self-worth. Have fun with the day.

Here are a few things that might help you have a positive and enjoyable day:

  1. Celebrate self-love: Treat yourself to something you love like a special meal, a movie, a new book, or whatever brings you joy.
  2. Spend time with friends or family: Surround yourself with people who love and support you. Have a Galentine’s or Palentine’s Day.
  3. Reach out to others in need of a kind word or gesture.
  4. Embrace your inner cat/dog/plant parent: Spend the day spoiling your furry, feathered, or leafy friends with extra treats, belly rubs, and TLC. They love you unconditionally.
  5. Embrace your inner grinch: Wear all black, listen to sad songs, and eat junk food.

A couple of poems to my daily loves (and I use that word loosely):

A Valentine for My Computer:

My love for you is like a virus

It spreads through my computer with ease,

I can’t function without you,

You’re my RAM, my hard drive,

my keys to everything



A Valentine for My Cell Phone:

You light up my life,

You’re always by my side

glowing in the dark

when I’m alone



Whatever you do, focus on what makes you happy and surround yourself with optimism and humor. So go ahead, have some laughs and enjoy the holiday on your own terms.

My Valentine to you:

February 14th is also Library Lover’s Day and International Book Giving Day.

Share the message with someone. Thanks for reading, and enjoy your week.

Inspiration, poetry

Time to relax; it’s the Year of the Rabbit

Celebrate the Year of the Rabbit 2023 with lights and gold-colored Chinese lanterns, and a rabbit on the red background, the Chinese stamp means rabbit, and the vertical Chinese phrase means Year of the Rabbit.

The last lunar new year was the year of the Tiger, which advised us that the year would be full of action and impulse. I’d say the prediction hit the nail on the head.

The 2023 lunar new year is the year of the Rabbit. The year predicts a more relaxed and inwardly focused period. The rabbit reminds us to spend more time in self-reflection.

IOW: Chill Time.

I’m not making this up. This prediction is given by Jonathan H.X. Lee, a professor of Asian and Asian American Studies at San Francisco State University:

“There is a lot of possibility for prosperity and flourishing, and for peace, really,” said Lee, whose research focuses on religions and folklore. “The rabbit is a very strong symbol for peace.”

The rabbit in the Chinese zodiac also speaks to the power of empathy, giving, and receiving compassion. The word for this year is HOPE. A great word for any year.

In this poem, the author belies her father’s wish for her to be born in the year of the Rabbit. The verses hop from left to right.

Ode to Chinese Superstitions

Chinese superstition tells me it’s bad luck
         to get a haircut when I’m sick, and my hair
gets cut twice a year, because I let it grow,
         tying it into a ponytail, exposing my forehead,
looking like I’m the protagonist of an anime,
         which makes me think about my last name,
Chan, also known as the  Japanese honorific
         for someone endearing. Chan, like a friend

                                      or someone childlike. I’ve been told I sound
                             like a child when I pick up the phone, or maybe
                                      it’s my pure joy to hear from the ones I love.
                             And yes, voices are sexier than faces, so dial me,
                                      honey, let’s get a little wild tonight, as I pour
                             a glass of  bourbon and picture myself in anime—
                                      cartoon Chan starring in a slice-of-life show
                             about a girl group trying to make it, and you bet

I’d be the rambunctious one, the tomboy-
         rabble-rouser-ringleader on the drums—
the  trouble  with the exposed forehead, also
         known in East Asian culture as a symbol
of  aggression, because an exposed forehead
         puts everything out there—you’re telling
the world you’re ready for a takedown,
         and according to my father, good Chinese

                                      girls never show their foreheads, and I know
                             he wishes I were born in the Year of  the Rabbit,
                                      like my mother, the perfect woman with flawless
                             skin who never causes trouble with the boys, but
                                      no, I’m the Year of the Snake, and I always bring
                             the party, cause the trouble, or as my lover says,
                                      I’m sarcastic wit personified, and it’s boundless,
                             because I am Dorothy—pop embodied in a gingham

skirt with a puppy and a picnic basket
         filled with prosciutto and gouda and Prosecco,
but really, what is my fate? And my mother
         tells me the family fortune teller got me all
wrong, because there’s no way in hell
         I’d end up being a housewife with three
children and a breadwinner of a husband.
         But of course, the fortune teller got my brother’s

                                      fate right. It’s moments like this when I wonder
                             if I even matter because I’m a girl and not a boy.
                                      It’s moments like this when I think about my fate,
                             or how Chinese superstition tells me not to cut or wash
                                      my hair on Lunar New Year, so all my good fortune
                             won’t be snipped away. But really, what is fate?
                                      I tie my hair back and put on a short skirt, ready
                             to take over the world—forehead forever exposed.

Dorothy Chan

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Wishing you health, good fortune, and peace.